A Friend in need...

Sharing my crazy thoughts about friends and maybe just a continuation  from what about love...in the previous blog!

In this process of growing up and realizing one self, you discover so many things you did not know but now you know.

Am at this point in my life when I barely have time to meet anyone even my sister who is my neighbour not necessarily next door. I keep making dates and never even make it to half of them. Its not because I do not want but with my crazy schedules at work I barely have enough energy to sustain me to even have a good get together.

However, in this mambo jambo, you loose some friends in the wake and run for money, career paths and the heltar skeltar of business and trying to grasp your happy ending. It gets crazier by the day and you have to let go eventually. But there are determined friends out here, who will bug you, whatsapp you, call you and cause a fuss for not replying their messages. They will always say hi even if you do not reply, send forwards and try get your attention which you eventually get a grip and start replying and eventually it becomes the norm of the day.

They people who are so easy to talk to even when you haven't seen them or heard from them in a long time, they greet you and continue from where we left off last year. This goes on and you eventually form a small pack of friends whom you are in constant communication with almost everyday. You know where they are without really interrogating because it slips off their tongues and becomes part of the conversation.

I choose to be that friend who makes people smile even if its sharing a lollipop, or just a joke. My friend called me once and told me she was pregnant and she did not know what to do, I told her that I would be there for her even if its just to hold her hand at the clinic.

When my friend gets sick, I may not necessarily leave work and go be their rescue nurse but I will call and have a chat to remind them that am still there. I believe in the little things that make this world a better place.

I once told a close friend that I do not have to be rich to be good to my peoples, but I will use the little that I have to make it count.

The busy schedule and all this technology, we got to make it work, atleast even once in a while. If you friend needs connection send them a link, it wont hurt a soul. If you girl needs to vent, give them an ear, on Skype, Whatsapp anyhow you can make it work. We all need each other and I need you. So kindly understand that I may not always be there but I will try.

A friend in need is indeed a friend in deed.

What about Love?

I always imagined that when you love someone, you always like them. 'Like them' in the context that you always want them around, you like the vibe they give you, they make you happy and etc...However, I came to discover something different about the whole love affair. When its puppy love and that sort of non sense you will definitely feel exactly like I mentioned above but they dont tell you what happens when that person pisses you, disappoints you or rips your world apart, am I expected to feel the same way? Do I smile at them when they literally break my heart, or do I turn and say aurevoir.

So now am with my boss and he looks quite happy being away from home. In my naivety, I would have thought that he is probably not happy in his marriage. Like I said, in my naivety! He is so chilled and says he would like to stay in the field a while longer. However, the guy loves his wife, but truth be told, sometime away helps. Just sometime away from the nagging and why didnt you pick up my call and where are you and why are you late? Some time alone restores your sanity.

We are meant to imagine the person you love should always give the tingling feeling at the pit of your stomach, a ray of sunshine every time they show up but I will not lie to you, there are days they become the most annoying people around, and at times you are so used to each other until everything is not a big deal anymore.

But how do you know this is love? When you are together doing nothing in particular but ok that someone is around and you know they got your back. The person you love makes stupid mistakes and the best you can do is watch them and simply pray they find their way. Love stories show pursue and the determination of getting to be together. But behind closed doors people fight, yell at each other, run away, argue, cry and say things that shouldn't be said.

These two people complete each other in their unique way but they are also human and will not be as patient as God is. I think in my defense God is the only tolerant, most forgiving and patient Supreme Being you will ever meet. He will forgive you for anything you ever do, but your love will probably mess up, look elsewhere, get bored, give up and probably some will walk away.

Love is bigger than the tingling feeling, Old folks stay together in silence while they watch TV but for sure they love each other. Some people barely say I love you or hold hands or even feel the tingly feeling, but they will catch a grenade for you. Its more that what you see outside but more of what you feel inside.

So what about love?