Denial

When folding my clothes,the word denial came to my mind and I think it's a sense of psychological state of mind that every person goes through one day or another. I checked the word in the dictionary and found out that denial comes in three stages Simple, Minimisational and Transference. That state is basically a way of coping with difficult situation in order to reduce stress.

So am seated in my room looking at my favorite pair of jeans that I used to wear in my early years of campus.I have tried wearing them a couple of times but trust me, these days they don't go past the knees. I become disappointed and enter a state of denial that my pair of jeans had reached its expiry date in my closet hence get rid of them somehow. However, that state did not change, I folded my jeans and thought to myself "I will lose weight pretty soon and I will be back to rocking them like I used to!" and soon they were back to my closet.

The point is, I was in a state of denial refusing to accept that I am not going  to fit in my jeans anymore and hence I should get myself another pair and get rid of those ones. They have not lost their gist and look pretty amazing but their work in my closet was done.

In life, we go through such times to ease ourselves the heartache of going through a loss. It can happen either after you have lost someone to death, became paralyzed, changed lives and we choose to believe that hanging on to the past is better off than moving on. Loosing something special in our lives can be hard and overwhelming but there comes a time we have to cut the wire or pull the  plug and let things be. When that happens, we finally receive a peace of mind and the curtain of self pity and frustration is lifted from our eyes hence we are able to appreciate reality and take a step forward to embrace it.